The Safer Sex Page

Excitation

Vixxie just made me forget myself. What was I doing? I hate it when this happens.

Edit I have removed Vixxie's real name at her request.

Mad Mommy Gets New Boobs

I always wanted to say that!

Welcome to the Dating Syndicate!

Today's Personals

Hi...I'm a very attractive union actor living with girlfriend seeking a very secret and discreet relationship with someone in the entertainment industry who can help me (producers, directors, casting people, agents, celebrities, etc..). I'm 27, 6', 180 lbs, brown hair & eyes, thin neatly trimmed goatee, smooth skin & chest, very nice face/smile, confident kind outgoing personality, kissable lips, open minded, can be a top or bottom depending on who I'm having sex with, disease free. Honest sincere replies only!!!!!

Posted by filchyboy
Tuesday, October 17, 2000. 11:35 PM


Eeek, I got a response!

Filchyboy,

You're just the kind of scumbag I've been looking for to put in my new film. God, you sound perfect. Give my people a call, and please, please, please, DO NOT somehow find or develop a sense of decency in the meantime. It would positively ruin the whorish, unctuous quality that I desperately need for my film and you no doubt possess in spades.

Cheers, Thomas

On the web there are many dating sites such as Match.com, SpringStreet, PlanetOut Personals, Flirt, Yahoo! Personals, Udate, eHarmony, Hot or Not, and many many others. The industry in 2002 was estimated to be worth some $917 million. You can read a U.S. Dating Services report from MarketResearch or the U.S. Dating Services report from MarketData Enteprises for some indications of the size of the market and major demographic considerations.

I have tried a few personal ads and although I haven't gotten many quality dates out of them I find them to be singularly fascinating as a form of human expression.

But aside from that personal ads seem to be a cash cow. I know that the fellow who owns (or owned) adultfriendfinder is making quite a bit of cash out of the thing. And this whole infrastructure, no matter who the vendor is, depends on the user relying upon the vendor to be the point of contact between the two parties. If you can bypass the vendor and simply begin communicating through some other channel you cut out the revenue stream for the personals site. This is why if you put an email address or a web address on a personal ad the vendor will remove it.

What if you could place a personal ad and find your soul mate (or hook up for a party) without paying a monthly fee?

Sounds interesting. Tell me more.

The Dating Syndicate is envisioned as an open framework for distributed personal ads. It will be built under a Creative Commons license. It will employ the same ping and response system which is used so effectively for tools such as weblogs.com, technorati, & blogshares. The Dating Syndicate will have 2 modes, open face or closed, to ensure each user is able to maintain the exact level of privacy they desire. Interfaces for browsing the personal ads will be managed through CSS files which will be available system wide or user chosen. The level of granularity with questions and topics will be as fine or as rough as each user decides with the capability for user designed "question templates" which can be shared within sub communities. For example you could have a set of preference questions which fit the folks who frequent Suicide Girls. Dating Syndicate files will be based on the FOAF format and the production of these files will be available either through a central service or as plugins or tools in all the major blog software such as Movable Type or Radio. And of course the beauty of the FOAF format is that you can simply roll your own if you like. Dating Syndicate ads will be dynamic, responsive, and loaded with additional information about connections, trends, traffic, popularity, etc.

There's much more tied up in such an idea. This channel will be used to discuss the various pieces of such a design and to begin implementation. I expect there is lots to come. Interestingly enough I have no idea of anyone would be interested in even using what i have envisioned but it strikes me as an interesting puzzle to work out. And I do so love puzzles.

Up next I'm going to break down what FOAF files are and just how they might be used to build a distributed personal ads system.

Stop The Gay Canadians Massachusetts!

First icky legalized homosexual marriage, then the apocalypse. Conservative America trembles.

Referer Logs Sex (and the City)

Well this is very interesting. I have had my referer logs spammed by HBO: Sex and the City. I mean I can understand whys and the wherefores of dpteen spamming my logs. But HBO?

Dating Online

Have you ever found a date through your blog?

Dating sites like Match.com, Spring Street Networks, Love@AOL, etc never allow folks who post personal ads to link to other sites in their ad. Obviously the reason why this is so is because the vendors want to restrict you to their web space so they can garner as much ad revenue as possible. And of course there is always that fee they charge you to contact your potential partner.

What if these vendors turned this on its head and allowed their users to hook a syndication feed from their blog into their profile? Would it completely undercut their business model or is there another way to derive revenue form such a thing? Is there a dating service for bloggers?

Search Phrase of the Day

This is exactly the type of reader I am trying to attract: "crouching pussy hidden pen"

Who knew? (It sounds like my theme song doesn't it?)

The Dishonest Media?

Can you find the sleight of hand at play in this piece on breast augmentation?

Bonus points if you can reveal how one would follow the money trail on this. I'm tempted to do a bit of research but I don't have time right now. Curiosity may get the better of me though.

Gay Guys, Straight Guys

Tom has vented his spleen on this new Straight Eye for the Queer Guy show just announced by Bravo.

To be honest I'm not at offended by any of this. Perhaps I'm getting older. I've seen the original a couple of times. I enjoyed it. Not enough that I would intentionally set my day around it but enough to bring a smile to my face.

I'd love someone to come into my life for one day and spend lots of money on me and my home. Please someone just drop me a note and shower me with pedicures & home furniture.

A Socialites Life

I discovered A Socialites Life today. I love it!!!

Now if only I could figure out if Miu is a drag queen or not my day would be done.

(I am so envious of the offhand cattiness, the casual dropping of names, & her spectacular wardrobe!)